You Are Who Your Inner Child Has Been Waiting For

Your untended young wounds are bleeding into every aspect of your life, impacting how you view yourself, your relationships, and the world around you.

These wounds will continue to show up in unconscious ways as your triggers, unhealthy habits, harmful coping mechanisms, mental health struggles, negative self-talk, and limiting beliefs until you get to know them, tend to them, and reparent them.

When you were younger, and harmful things happened to you:

• someone said something mean to you

• made a negative comment about your body

• treated you poorly

• hurt you

• did something that made you feel uncomfortable

• a parent struggled with their mental health, substance abuse, or left unexpectedly

…if you didn’t have parents or caregivers helping you process and understand why these things were happening to you, your little self tried to make sense of it in the only way they knew how…by believing that something must be wrong with them.

You created negative internalized beliefs to help make sense of the painful things that happened, making it seem like you were the problem, like you did something wrong, when that simply wasn’t the case.

These unconscious or conscious internalized beliefs can sound like:

• I’m broken

• Something’s wrong with me

• I’m bad

• I’m not enough

• I’m stupid

• It’s not safe to express myself

• I have to prove myself in order to receive love

• I have to put other people first in order to receive love

These beliefs were never true to begin with, but are now showing up today as your limiting beliefs and negative self-talk.

But the beautiful thing is, you are the answer.

You are the healer of these untended wounds. Just as you would tend to an open wound on your body, it needs your attention, love, and care to repair and truly heal.

By explaining and tending to these younger parts of yourself, letting them know that they have been enough at every age and stage. That they are whole, safe, and loved.

Letting them know that they were never the problem, and understanding that people project their own unhealed wounds onto us as children.

Understanding that many people were struggling in their own ways and lacked the emotional or communication skills needed to help you process and make sense of what was truly happening to you as a child.

You get to be the nurturing parent to them now.

The protector.

The guardian.

So the next time you’re feeling triggered or anxious, when negative self-talk or limiting beliefs arise, take a pause.

Knowing now that this is a younger part of you trying to get your attention. 

Holding space for yourself to see what is coming up, which younger part of you is crying out for your attention.

Listening and talking to them as you would comfort, reassure, and nurture a child, because that is who you’re talking to, the child within you.

You get to offer the repair you needed then, that you never received.

You are who you’ve been waiting for.

If you're struggling with anxiety or are stuck in survival mode, I invite you to listen to this heart-opening episode with Dr. Russell Kennedy, a neuroscientist, and me, on The Multiple Truths Podcast.

We explore how to truly heal anxiety at its root, not just manage the symptoms. We talk about the power of reconnecting with your inner child and learning to feel safe in your body again.

🎧 Click here to listen: Healing Your Anxiety for Good: Reconnecting with Your Inner Child & Body

Sending you love,

Holly