It’s time to tell your inner critic she is no longer welcome.
That inner voice that is constantly tearing you down, telling you:
"you’re not good enough, you’re not pretty enough, you’re not smart enough, you’re not skinny enough, you talk too much, you don't talk enough, you're so loud, you're too quiet, you're so weird, you're so awkward, you're an idiot, you're a failure..."
That part of you that is constantly comparing you to other people and telling you, something is wrong with you.
This inner critic has been with you throughout your life. It began taking form in your childhood and has gotten louder and louder over the years as you continue to listen and believe what she’s saying to be true.
This is the time for you to show her that she is not allowed here anymore. It is time to SEE your wounded inner child and show her that she is SAFE and that SHE IS ENOUGH.
YOU are in control, and you get to allow what thoughts take up space in your head.
The way to feel more in control around your thoughts is becoming consciously aware of how you are talking to yourself and your inner dialogue.
For YEARS, my inner critic was constantly telling me I wasn’t enough. I wasn’t skinny enough, pretty enough, smart enough, funny enough. It became so habitual and unconscious that I believed her, and it dictated how I felt about myself.
Even at the depths of my eating disorder when I was at my skinniest…I still heard, “You’re not skinny enough, you’re not pretty enough.”
The more I become consciously aware and could identify and separate myself from my unconscious and habitual way of thinking, the freer I became...and I want that for you, too.
Instead of going down the rabbit hole and spiraling down self-hatred and loathing…get curious.
Identify how certain events in day-to-day life make you feel. In doing this, you become more aware of what events may trigger and create a negative emotion within you. What part of you is being triggered? More likely than not, it is a younger part of you that is hurt and needs to be seen and acknowledged by you.
The first step is Awareness. When you become aware of it, only then can you change it.
When you can identify the events that cause a negative emotion in you, notice and hear your inner critic and negative self-talk. You can then stop yourself, catch it, acknowledge it, and re-route to what you know to be true about yourself and your new belief.
Below is an example of a CONSCIOUS AWARENESS PRACTICE:
How do you feel when you walk by a mirror?
What do you notice physically in your body?
Are you judging, criticizing, comparing, trying to meet a standard of perfection?
Can you identify any underlying negative beliefs?
LIMITING CURRENT BELIEF EXAMPLE:
➡️NEGATIVE BELIEF: I am so ugly and fat.
➡️THOUGHT PATTERNS: My arms are too big, my thighs are huge, my face looks fat and puffy. I hate how I look; no one will ever think I’m attractive. Nothing is ever going to
change for me. I need to stop eating so much. I need to workout harder.
➡️NEGATIVE EMOTIONS: shame, guilt, frustrated, defeated
➡️BEHAVIOR: I say no to social events and never get in group photos because I don’t want to even look at myself. I sit on the couch and scroll on social media to numb and distract myself from how I’m feeling.
➡️➡️➡️NOW, this is the NEW BELIEF to go to when you catch yourself spiraling down negative self-talk when you see yourself in the mirror.
NEW BELIEF EXAMPLE:
➡️NEW BELIEF: I am learning to love myself fully and completely, no matter what I look like.
➡️THOUGHT PATTERNS: I love and accept myself fully and completely. I appreciate my
body for all that it does for me. When I look in the mirror, I accept all parts of me with no
judgment. I am beautiful just the way I am. I am so proud of how far I have come. I can look myself in the eyes in the mirror, say "I love you" to myself and mean it. I love who I am and who I am continuing to become. I am healing and am so incredibly proud of myself.
➡️EMOTIONS: contentment, gratitude, safety
➡️BEHAVIOR: I smile at myself in the mirror and say, “I love you, I am so proud of you.”
I pick one thing about my body that I am grateful for, then move on and do my skincare
The more conscious you are of your inner dialogue, the easier this becomes.
This is KEY to rewiring your current belief system to be more positive and supportive. Talk to yourself like you are your own best friend...because you are meant to be.
I encourage you to get curious about your inner dialogue and REDIRECT it to what you know to be true about yourself.
You are beautiful, you are worthy, you are deserving, you are enough. You have ALWAYS been enough.
Sending you love,
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